What do you have to do to live happily ever after with your significant other? People have been asking this question for centuries, but a definite answer has yet to be found. Fortunately, a recent survey that asked lifetime couples on their longevity has revealed some truly astounding secrets. Here they are:
Maintain an active sex life
The divorce rate nowadays is staggering. More and more couples admit that they have lost the spark that binds them together so thoroughly in the beginning. When they visit the couple counselor, most of them blame the lack of sex in their life, and how this aspect destroys all their excitement and lust for living.
On the other hand, partners that maintain a relationship for decades in a row believe that sex is essential to couple longevity. Their advice is to embrace the sexual metamorphosis that takes place naturally. Sex in your 20s is very different from the usual intercourse you will be having when you’re 45.
You need to consider the many ways that your body will change and the fact that both your libido and the sexual lust of your partner will oscillate. Constant change to your usual sex life will help you overcome these issues.
Less sex doesn’t have to be bad sex
It is natural for long-term couples to experience dry spells. It might seem weird now, but you might reach the point where you only have sex once every two months. Most couples go through these experiences, and you should not take them to your heart. The ideal thing to do is to give it your best every time you get in between the sheets with your partner, no matter how rarely this happens. This practice will increase your libido and make your loved one desire you more.
Don’t let the small things destroy your happiness
It’s a fact: people change, and so do their preferences. The things that used to turn you on ten years ago could seem gross and repel you now. All couples get to live this kind of experience, as each partner transcends through natural changes. The best thing to do is to embrace the "new you" and what your partner becomes over the years, and not to let this fact damage your happiness and your true feelings. In fact, you can even use them to your advantage and introduce new fetishes and fantasies to your sex life.
Take a break from the couple lifestyle
Many couples get carried away during their long-term relationship and lose focus on what makes them truly happy. Whether it is their jobs, their kids or their mortgage loans, something always dims the flame of their burning love. When you notice this thing happening in your life, you need to take immediate action.
The best solution to a worn-out relationship is to do the opposite things that most couples do: going through counseling or finding isolation in their working careers. Instead, you should take a break from everything, go on a lengthy vacation, and allow for new experiences to bring you back together and usher in a new era of happiness in your relationship.